I’ll admit it, I’m a romantic. I cry over mushy movies, go misty-eyed when I see octogenarians holding hands, and my heart melts when my husband of nearly thirty years presents me with something completely unexpected (even if the gift might seem cheerfully cheesy to any outside observer).
That said, I’m not a big fan of the fuss and folderol of Valentine’s Day, for some reason… although in honor of the day, I did come up with eight alternative ways to celebrate, posted on my other blogging gig.
Maybe it’s personal, because February already has too much for us to celebrate (i.e., both our birthdays). Maybe it’s because it’s too commercial for my taste, and all the focus seems just a little forced. Or maybe it’s because some of the truly loving people I know remain single by choice (and they are, by traditional omission, left out of the festivities, like those unasked to dance – or not brave enough to risk doing the asking — at a junior high dance).
Of course it’s not that simple. Relationships are a tricky business, and what’s called “rising to the occasion” is usually appreciated.
I would never argue that one shouldn’t remind loved ones that you care – but NOT just today. Not just with flowers or chocolates or jewelry (though all of those are nice!)
I think there are bigger and better ways to show love: how about by overlooking some flaw in your partner… or perhaps refraining from “sharing” a critical comment? (You all know what I mean!)
Or the next time something comes up that neither of you want to do, jumping in to do that mutually disliked task. Who can’t think of something that fits THAT bill (cleaning toilets and washing windows easily come to mind.)
How about staying healthy for each other – don’t you think the simple but unrelenting act of working out is a sign you care and want your years together to be unmarked by as much dis-ease as possible?
Such expressions for each other go a long LONG way, no matter what date’s on the calendar.
One thing I know: I prefer sincere to cynical. I think most people do.
Might not be a bad thing to remember, however you celebrate your love, today or any day.
A favorite photo from our recent trip; the reflection of the flash in the window could
be our lucky star, you think?